I `am stupid. What if I'm dumber than a chicken? I feel uncomfortable around people. I have a dull, empty look, there is nothing to talk about with me. I can’t correspond and talk for a long time because I have nothing to say. Sometimes I don’t even understand what people are talking about. I have no desire for self-education, it is difficult for me to study or understand something. I'm just a lazy, weak-willed wimp.
In all the educational institutions where I studied, I had a lot of C grades. When, like the majority, we received good grades without stress. I live in a world of my fantasies and grievances. At first I thought that the problem was in the environment, but then I realized that people change, new ones come, but nothing changes for me. People don't trust me because they probably think I'm dumb. Behind my back they call me a fool. Would you say that I have low self-esteem? No, I'm just stupid, so nothing will change if you tell me about self-esteem. I took this from scratch. I observe and understand that people are smarter than me, and I’m just a laughing stock, who graduated from school and college with grief. Even my parents value me less than my sister, because my sister is smarter and studied well. I am nothing of myself as a person, I have done nothing worthwhile in life. An ordinary neurasthenic. I hate myself.
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Dumb, age: 23 / 28.11.2012
Responses:Wit, talents, sense of humor, abilities, etc. are not in themselves something good, kind, or dignity. Although, they are not something bad. A person who thinks slower than others is no worse than others.
The only virtue is humility, without it no good is possible.
If you don’t have any talents, it’s okay, God still loves you. The main thing is to have humility and everything will be fine! :)
Alexey, age: 42 / 11/30/2012
Alexey, well, I’ve accepted that I’m stupid, but that doesn’t make life any better. Nothing is
things got better in my life. What's the point?
Dumb, age: 23 / 30.11.2012
You are wrong to think so and you are wrong to call yourself that. Let them think whatever they want about you. But you can't think about yourself like that,
critical. For example, I understand everything about bicycles, but not about diesel engines. That is, I am “dumb” in them,
because I don’t know anything about them. And somewhere at a construction site (as it was) - I was probably considered stupid. So what.
You see, the main thing here is to find your favorite thing. And it is advisable to be useful with it. Will be appreciated and needed
to you. You just need to stop being lazy. By the way, to some extent physical activity improves
thinking. Therefore, do not disdain any kind of gymnastics. Find something to do and, no matter what, become
"specialist". I think this is interesting. You will definitely be different from your sister. Ask where to get it
motivation? Well, now it’s the Nativity Fast - try fasting. You know, limiting yourself in food is like
it sobers you up, you start to think productively. You assess your plight differently. (I know from myself). IN
In general, the feeling of hunger motivates action. Give it a try. But if you do this, then do it right (according to
charter), since it is a sacred matter.
And also, sometimes it’s beneficial to be a “stupid” person, as you say. But this is rather a trick. And at the same time how
protection. That is, sometimes it is better not to get involved in dubious “smart” things or conversations. Well, for example, someone
someone starts talking about a “lofty”, empty topic and you realize that it’s essentially nothing, and then you
you say: “Oh, I don’t understand anything about this, my friend...”. You're pretending to be a fool. In general this way
you stop and ignore idle talk. I say this from my life - anything can happen.
But don’t worry. Rather, it is not a matter of intelligence, but of charm (for a woman) and abilities (for a man). I am like-
I think so.
Yes, and there is also a saying: “Keep your mouth shut, you’ll pass for a smart person.” It works - fact. Or this: silence is golden, and
only the best, explanatory word is just silver.
Kirill, age: 28 / 01.12.2012
Hello! From your message it is clear that you are not at all stupid, even literate, able to express your
thoughts man. You write much better than many on the RuNet, and this already says something :) Don’t force it
situation. By being nervous and calling yourself names, you only make things worse, closing the circle of discontent. Try it
understand yourself, take time to sit down and think carefully about what you don’t like about
Your life at the moment and what needs to be done to change it. Perhaps your low success in
Are your studies related to the fact that what you studied was not interesting to you? In this case, there is no need to worry about it -
lack of interest leads to lack of motivation. The problem then is not your imaginary stupidity, but
wrong choice of specialization, which in itself can be corrected, and therefore is not tragic :) Communicating
with people, don’t think that you have nothing to say - first, smile, be friendly, listen
speaking and then, I’m sure, you will find something to say in response if they turn to you or just politely
keep the conversation going. Don't give in to decadent moods! Everything will work out for you, you'll see!
Lucic, age: 23/12/01/2012
The worst thing is when they are stupid and mean. The main thing is not to be mean. And being stupid isn't a bad thing. Bribes from stupid people are smooth. AND
smile more. A smiling fool somehow looks more cheerful than an angry, sad and nervous one :) Previously in Rus' (in
long ago) FOOL was the name given to the mother of the family, the keeper of the hearth. Then this word has a different meaning
found. But there is a point to this. Fools often create good families, and “too smart” ones learn five languages,
buy
apartments, cars, and sit in their apartments in splendid isolation with their noses up and three formations. U
My girlfriend also doesn’t always understand what we’re talking about. But there is so much light and positivity in her, she has such
a smile that everyone loves her. And “dumbness” is perceived as peculiarity and uniqueness. Came out last month
marry a rich, mature and intelligent man. And I understand him, with her arrival his house was filled with joy and
light. So be neat, clean, kind, joyful and open. Love yourself and people. And be
happy.
Also, watch Forrest Gump. Brilliant film. There his mother says one very significant truth: “A fool is not
the one who does not understand everything, but the one who acts badly." In different voices it sounds a little differently, but the essence
remains. The film has a huge number of awards. Critics gave the film a second title - The Carrying Man
good luck. But the problem is not that you are stupid, but your inflated demands on yourself, perhaps dictated
parents. You don’t live by your own desires and needs, but try to squeeze into someone else’s picture of the world. From
That’s why you don’t have the energy to create, that’s why you’re lazy - you don’t want to do what you don’t like, but
what you like, you have long forgotten. That's why you're nervous, because you're trying to please someone, but it doesn't work.
yours, everything is alien to you. You need to look for yourself and yours, then you will feel good. And yourself
you will find when a protest arises in your soul: “That’s it, I don’t want to dance to anyone’s tune. I’m an adult, I’m capable of it myself.”
make decisions and be responsible for them. And I know what I'm doing!"
Marushka, age: 29 / 02.12.2012
You have a "high" opinion of yourself. You write practically without errors, so you have no right to call yourself stupid =)
Don't compare yourself to others. I graduated from school with a gold medal, one 4 prevented me from receiving a red diploma,
I'm currently studying in graduate school... But you know, sometimes I also feel stupid and unfulfilled... I understand that
There are people much smarter than me, but realizing this shouldn’t ruin my life. Don't communicate with those people who
make you doubt your capabilities. Try to decide what interests you in life, what interests you
It’s interesting to study, for example, maybe you want to learn how to do nail extensions, go and learn, that’s where it’s at
something that even a stupid person can handle. Simply put, don’t beat yourself up, don’t offend yourself and don’t get hung up,
do something, find people with common interests and then everything will be fine.
Goldy, age: 23 / 01/09/2013
I also went to college, but I can’t do more than one test. I hate myself for this, I take it out on my loved ones.
Gala, age: 26 / 01/25/2013
Hello, I have a similar situation. I say that it’s not exactly the same, but similar, because I think that everything is ten times worse for me (I am a great sinner... in order to take revenge on an evil man, I took off the cross and turned to a black voodoo magician, I deceived God himself... and I do not confess sins, I offended my own mother, who paid for my studies, working 20 hours a day alone, 4 years in three places and for everything and everyone, and I only graduated from 1 educational institution and not with excellent marks). No one ever believes or trusts me, because I forget about everything within an hour due to a double head injury, and people think that I did it on purpose.
Good evening! You have a very interesting site and exactly what interests me. If you, the author, graduated from a university, then you are not at all stupid, because not everyone graduates from university in our time. People are not smarter than you, perhaps they just have life experience, if they are much older than you and you will gain it over time and everything will be ok. Other people have, according to statistics, no more than an average level of development. For initial socialization in society, a person needs at least a normal family, a job, and then children, when they are ready in all respects and are completely confident in themselves. Laziness is common to all people. Maybe you need some group training or a consultation with the famous psychoanalyst Dr. Kurpatov. You will definitely do something else in life. People may need any of your help. Life in Russia forces you to be more mobile, more active, bolder, although personally I have not yet succeeded in this, since I cannot win in a verbal skirmish, except in some cases. In general, any job actually forces any person to do 50% good and 50% evil, so other people are not very significant either. For example, banks issue a loan that can help someone with treatment, additional payment for the last year of a child’s education somewhere, while putting others deeply in debt for months and years if the loan is large and with high interest.
Christina, age: 26 / 03/07/2013
You know, I understand you, I thought I was the only one in the world...
Emi, age: 19 / 18.05.2013
By the way, you didn’t make a single mistake in the text, except for the missing letter in the word “educational” (typo), which already speaks of your education. At a time when most scribblers on the Internet make mountains of ASHIBOK, and put 20 commas or zero commas. You are not that simple. You are smart. You have not been appreciated since you were a child. This is where it went wrong. I am sure that you, like me, want to cover everything in knowledge and interests, and therefore have nothing. Go to some events that do not require the exchange of information - exhibitions, museums. Start practicing any art. This will be your topic. Good luck.
Vladislav Kukharchuk, age: 22 / 06/05/2013
By the way, yes, you are very competent. A person who can express his thoughts so clearly and write competently is no longer stupid by default. :)
Tanya Du, age: 19 / 20.06.2013
Since I went through such thoughts about myself, one thing I can say is accept yourself as you are, you have no other choice. The most important thing is to sort yourself out, understand yourself, and don’t worry about what they will think of you and how others will evaluate you. How it says, “You’re not a 5-dollar bill to please everyone.”
Elena, age: 37 / 06/24/2013
Hello)) you are stupid (?), but you are 24 years old, and I am already 35 years old. And today I once again became convinced of my stupidity.. But I am already old and it is a problem to fix anything. Yes, and I’m extremely lazy, there are a lot of excuses to do anything..
But, in my opinion, you have a talent for expressing your thoughts.. Perhaps you are not as stupid as you think, and there is still time to become more proficient (to study), perhaps you will become a good journalist, or you will become a successful writer ..
So all is not lost.. Try it.. maybe it will work..))
Anastasia, age: 35 / 09/05/2013
Yes Yes Yes. I have exactly the same problem as you. My sister is also loved more than me, because she is smarter. She has good grades. And I also thought that the problem was my self-esteem, but no. There’s nothing to talk about with people, I used to think that I just came across people who weren’t particularly talkative, I thought wrong. And I hate myself too. With grades it’s a complete nightmare. I thought I was the only one.
Musya, age: 17/10/08/2013
The same thing happens to me as to the author. Well, at least I'm not the only one in the world.
Inna, age: 22 / 10/16/2013
Trust me, you are not stupid! I didn’t find a single mistake in your story, either grammatical or punctuation! And I understand this.
Vladimir, age: 13 / 02.11.2013
Read a lot of books
Aigerim, age: 15 / 01/08/2014
I understand you, I have absolutely the same situation.
I don’t agree with those who say that if a person writes without errors, then he cannot be stupid; literacy is not an indicator of intelligence, but compliance with standards. I can write on the Internet without errors, sometimes it’s even good to express my thoughts, but in life I’m so stupid that I can’t carry on a single normal conversation.
Liana, age: 18 / 02/15/2014
For a dumb person, you have unusually correct sentences and deep thoughts, beautifully expressed in words. You have one of two things - either depression or you are scamming us. The third option is that you're just too shy. this can be fixed. I've been working on myself all my life. Although, on the contrary, I consider myself smart, but not able to communicate.
Lada, age: 41 / 03/21/2014
Alexey, if you resign yourself, you won’t achieve anything.
Nyashka, age: 16 / 04/22/2014
It's exactly the opposite, ma'am.
You don’t “don’t love yourself because you’re stupid,” but you consider yourself stupid because you don’t love yourself.
There is an option that you do not love yourself because it seems to you that “no one” loves you. And maybe it’s even a specific “nobody”.
Another possibility is that you haven’t found your topic. It's difficult to communicate with people you don't understand (because you're not interested in their interests). I hope everything has changed for the better in 2 years.
Sergio, age: 43 / 06/08/2014
Good afternoon.
I won't try to convince you that you are smart. You may be dumber than the average person. It's not scary. I'll say something else.
In my concept, there are two types of people. Smart - Stupid and Lazy - Not Lazy. So, being stupid and not lazy is much better than being smart and lazy.
Stupidity is not a sentence. It is simply a state of mind that nature gives you. And this cannot be corrected, no matter how hard you fight.
Dimitriy1861, age: 35 / 07/03/2014
Read books and be a little braver!
Stesha, age: 21 / 07/14/2014
You don't have to worry so much about it. You have already changed something in your concept of life. Appreciate every minute of life. Don't waste your golden time thinking about it. Value your time. After all, no one knows what might happen to us tomorrow. Have as much fun as you like. Rejoice and make your loved ones happy with this.
akilay.lala, age: 16/07/24/2014
Hello, how is it?
Are you still pretending to be stupid?
Anonymous Petrovsky, age: 22 / 12/27/2014
Realizing that you are stupid is the first step to wisdom
Just came to have a look, age: 18 / 03/09/2015
You need to try to do as well as possible what you have to do. This is especially true for those who “don’t strive” (they just “have to”, not “want” to do something). This is a way to become smarter
at least in something. Because you don’t really want to hang around like shit in an ice hole all your life. I am such a person myself. I'm probably dumber than the dumbest people. If only because I stay at the same level for a long time
development. Those who studied with grade 3 are now much more competent in some things than I am.
Whatever field you take, I have superficial knowledge everywhere: politics, culture, geography, medicine, sociology. I, a biologist by training, cannot sit down, get rid of the pens, and, finally,
figure out what mechanisms are responsible for the crap that’s happening to me. Complete despondency (which is a sin if we touch on religion). Of course, laziness is easily explained: we are actively developing
until reproductive age, so that they can care for their future offspring. Further development is no longer so necessary. Therefore, very often people stop developing already at the age of 20. Or
It becomes more difficult for them to develop. But there are people who are not lazy to train their brain. They probably now, instead of writing a sad comment, sit and calmly read
another book, they understand the next field of activity. They know how to be interested. They interest themselves. But I still need to be interested in “someone.” And I’m no longer a schoolgirl, I
I should already be able to do it myself...
Svetlana, age: 22 / 04/24/2015
No, you're not as stupid as I am! I don’t know anything at all and now in one year I want to learn 3 important subjects for me and go to college to become a programmer, even people close to me
They say where did you go, there’s nothing in your stupid head! you don't stand a chance. You graduated from college, but I can’t even get into it; the exam has pretty easy questions, but I can’t even answer such
I don’t know the answers to easy questions. I’m already 21 years old and I only now understood how I should have studied correctly.
Sanya, age: 21 / 04/25/2015
I want to tell you that you are not the only one who suffers from this! I also consider myself stupid and I’m scared, I can’t build a relationship, everything becomes clear on the first date, I always start being stupid and that’s all.
Then I understand where and what was wrong when it’s too late. I withdrew into myself, stopped talking, because I know that again I will say the wrong thing, that people will laugh behind my back, or even in my eyes
and my soul hurts from this, what will happen next is even scary to imagine, I don’t want people to take advantage of my stupidity, I don’t understand why I live at all.
Rita, age: 27/05/30/2015
To some extent, everything you say is an excuse. Yes, you don't deny that you are lazy. But maybe it's not your laziness. The fact is that you yourself do not want to achieve something. If you
If she really wanted to, she could achieve a lot.
I don't think grades are an indicator of intelligence. The education system in Russia, in my opinion, is not the most magnificent.
If you don’t have topics to talk to people and you’re too lazy to develop yourself somehow, then pick up a book. Something very interesting, recognized by many. It doesn't have to be serious
literature. Have you read Harry Potter? If not, then just start, you won’t be able to stop later. Find your favorite genre of literature, read more books, and you will notice that your speech has become
better.
If you really don’t want anything at all, then watch TV series. Only really good ones. And watch in the original voice-over with Russian subtitles. Thus, without doing practically anything, you can
learn a little foreign speech.
Good luck.
Askr, age: 17/06/03/2015
The main thing is to do whatever you want, whatever you like. I myself studied with straight A's, but I had low self-esteem. I transferred twice and was not liked at the new schools. Must have
goal and dream and strive for it.
EeOneGuy, age: 19/12/11/2015
I have the same situation, I’m an introverted fool, I only write one thing correctly, I’m just not sociable... :(even though I’m only 13 years old
Nastya)), age: 13 / 01/02/2016
High five, I'm also a dumbass) everyone calls me that)) my parents remind me every day that I'm not a person and people don't perceive me)))) but I communicate normally with everyone and
when it comes to lessons and everyone in the class sees that I’m stupid, they turn away from me, the attitude changes)) I changed sooo many schools and had no friends anywhere))) I
I'm used to it) just accept it and don't pay attention.
Valya, age: 15 / 01/06/2016
I think that you are not that stupid, because you understand all your disadvantages and shortcomings. If we believe you that you do not have a good mind, then I can only say that you simply don’t get carried away about
To achieve this, look for the positives in yourself and improve them.
Di, age: 20 / 30.01.2016
Just believe in yourself and believe that you can achieve something. Just sit on the couch and say that you can do what you can’t do, and do it. You just have to
Believe in yourself and everything will be as you want.
Korovin Oleg Igorevich, age: -- / 02/01/2016
So I have exactly the same problem as you, author! I constantly feel inferior! Back in school, I realized that I am not very smart! I have always been
a responsible student! I almost never missed lessons, always did my homework, and still nothing stuck in my head! (((I don’t know basic
things, and I envy those who can carry on a conversation on intellectual topics! And besides, when I’m excited, my hands and head begin to shake, and are constantly sweaty
palms, I blush for no particular reason, I’m afraid to communicate with new people! All this really interferes with life! Despite the fact that I’m quite pretty in appearance, what’s the point?
Anya, age: 24 / 02/02/2016
Learn to value your life...
Yourself and your family... And everyone in general!
Almost everyone has this problem at your age... Try to have fun. And share it with everyone!)) Good luck))))
I wish you success)!!))))))
psychologist, age: 36 / 04/26/2016
Stop whining and saying that you are stupid! You are an adult and no longer a little child. You're just special in a different way
All. Are you offended that no one wants to trust you and blah blah? You know you have a childish character. You are easily offended.
Finally, grow up and understand that how you treat yourself is how they will treat you. You will be treated as
you will allow. Let's say you didn't study well. But perhaps studying was not interesting to you? Maybe you have another one
talent. Tell me what interests you? Maybe you have a dream? You know, my brother tells me that I'm stupid and at the same time
says I'm smart. Why? Yes, because I make a lot of madness and mistakes - this is my stupidity. And the mind is what I don’t allow
no one should humiliate me. Don't ever let anyone say that either. Don't tell tales that this is your opinion. Maybe
Someone already told you this or you made some mistake that you regret. A person learns from his mistakes. Not
look back to the past. First of all, love yourself. Let's start life with a clean slate. If you haven't done anything worthwhile
Do It. Everything starts small. Believe in yourself! If you continue like this it will end badly. It's not too late yet.
You're probably lonely, that's why you write like that. Make yourself a lot of friends. And yes, if you want to do something worthwhile, start
help old pensioners, children from an orphanage. Not only the rich, but also the most ordinary people can help. Create
good and this will be the most huge worthwhile thing.
Tina, age: 14 / 04/27/2016
Oh, how these phrases irritate me: “most of them got good grades without stress.”
Do you seriously think that those classmates of yours who brought home A’s and B’s didn’t do anything for it? Did someone put knowledge into their heads by opening their skull?
And at the institute, people who wrote coursework on their own, for example, did it once or twice?
Nonsense. All this is hard work, almost every day. They had to work hard and use their brains, and they wouldn’t complain now. If you don’t think, don’t do something, your brain will turn sour. And nothing
something new will not appear in them until you personally introduce this new thing there. Read, listen, watch - it's up to you. But you will have to do this, and not wait for knowledge to come on its own, like that
the majority, who supposedly get everything without stress.
Anastasia, age: 23 / 07/27/2016
I understand you very much, it’s not for nothing that I came across this topic. My situation is similar and a little strange, I was always a smart girl at school, smart, understanding and reasoning very differently
childishly My grammar is fine, but lately I’ve realized that I’m starting to get dumber. And the look is already kind of stupid (there is a dull look, when there is emptiness in the eyes, I have it like this. Myself
I look in the mirror and realize that I’m stupid. It’s painful to realize that everything seems to be fine, inside you understand everything more or less, but you feel that you are unable and cannot understand many things
express your thoughts correctly, so that even those around you consider you a stupid girl. But if you're reading this right now, or anyone else who finds themselves in a similar situation, I have a primitive
advice, you need to read a lot, communicate a lot with people, that is, talk, and follow the conversation so that there is no water, and if not with anyone, then with yourself, if everything is so sad. Can
learn sarcasm. It helps. no matter how strange it may sound. and generally forget what Instagram is and watching stupid videos and public pages on VK. they greatly limit thinking and promote
degradation. And of course, sports, it really helps to organize thoughts. You can start a diary and write every day how you felt, how your day went, or at least try.
As, age: 24/09/29/2016
Come on! You are too critical! A really stupid person will never ask such a question)) believe me)) and as for grades at university, this is not an indicator.
Ahh, age: 19 / 09.12.2016
I won’t make idiotic assumptions, for example: “Are you depressed?” “Are you feeling bad?” “You’re just screwing yourself up!” I’m not a psychologist from Malibu :) And you don’t know me at all (just like I don’t know you ).Sorry if my writing is useless but I really want to at least
help a little. Similar feelings depress me now. Right at this moment. It seems to me that your opinion of yourself within the framework of the word “stupid” has no meaning. It hurts and unpleasantly sometimes brings you to tears. Less oppression. It sounds stupid, but take a broader look. Why creatures
who think you are stupid have the right to be called “smart people”? Even if they are right, then what is the point. Look around. You are surrounded by the same social framework and conditions as others. I think there has already been advice on drugs for mental activity. I'm
I’ll just say that even in the dumbest thoughts there is something important) “The Earth is round” used to be a dumb thought too. We all have different frames. The main thing you must understand for yourself.
Kanra, age: 100 / 01/08/2017
If you understand that you are stupid, then you are not so stupid anymore.
Someone, age: 21 / 02/17/2017
A girl makes only one decision in life - chooses her man! And then he decides everything! The main thing is to smile and be beautiful! And let your man decide the rest.
A girl should remain a girl! Weak and defenseless, gentle and caring.
Grades don't decide anything in life!!!
In modern life, those who were nerds at school work for poor students!!!
Be yourself, and don't adapt to someone else, just to please someone!
Everything will work out for you!
Hi, I had a similar problem. When I entered university, I could only learn two paragraphs in a whole day. I won’t give it 100%, but probably such a problem arises when a person does not develop and overload his brain with work for a long time. Not performing routine, memorized functions, but real brain work. The result is some kind of stagnation. A person must develop, and the brain first of all. And if you want to fix everything, you need to start thinking with your head)
At first, I tried to learn a verse every day, at two, and repeated them to myself in the evening. Memory and concentration greatly improve, but do not think that by learning three to five poems you will become a genius, there will be improvements, but not immediately. Maybe in two weeks the first successes will begin and this will only be the beginning)))
Chess is great for good reasoning and logical thinking. Well, I think everyone has heard about this ancient strategy. By the way, a story from life: my friend went to a chess club and somehow took me with her) That glorious evening I was introduced to the rules of the game, and you know what’s funny...that same evening I was beaten by a five-year-old boy) The feeling was indescribable !)
If you read, do not just scan the text with your eyes, but think about what you are reading, analyze the actions, and draw conclusions.
And of course, don’t despair, the emotional component is very important. Maybe there are some poems that you like or these could be song lyrics. It is very difficult to start all this and improvements will come gradually, but the main thing is not to give up. Choose a program that suits you and only think that with every verse you learn (game you win, any small step) you become better, smarter and happier)))
This is, of course, just my personal experience, but as I remember, after five poems in a row, I was full of joy and pride in myself!) Good luck and success to you! The main thing is the desire to move forward and a little effort put into the desire =D
Who is a loser? Each person has his own answer to this question. Some people believe that a loser is someone who has no money, job, family or friends. Some people think that this is someone who does not know how to trust, respect, or love other people. Perhaps the second leads to the first.
But you can be a loser even if you have huge bank accounts, a luxurious home and a garage with five cars. Why is this happening? In the article “10 Traits of Losers: Are you One? "The Dumblittleman website lists qualities that can make you a failure.
Insincerity
Sincerity lies in the fact that values, thoughts, words and actions do not diverge from each other, they are equal and consistent. Sincerity is attractive. If your words are constantly at odds with your actions, people will turn away from you.
Gossip and slander
If you are known as a person who spreads slander and gossip, not a single person will trust you, you will be left all alone, you will lose.
Chronic pessimism
We are not talking about a little bit of pessimism every now and then, but about a deep, constant, indestructible pessimism that causes others to avoid your company and hides the beauty of life from you. Such pessimism is stifling and paralyzing.
Indifference
Regardless of your type of activity, you should not be indifferent to other people. If you can abandon an injured person, or walk past a screaming, lost child, or simply refuse a person who needs your help, you are a loser.
Lack of ambition
Man is not an island, and one way or another you have a direct influence on the people around you. Lack of ambition is a harmful infectious quality with which you spoil and pollute everything you come into contact with.
Mediocre
You can’t live like a ticking time bomb, afraid to take an extra step because someone might not like it and constantly waiting for approval from the outside. Your words that show respect for someone must be sincere, and not born out of fear or a desire to please someone, otherwise they will only cause negativity.
Lack of self-confidence and self-esteem
It's no secret that before you can respect someone else, you must learn to respect yourself. How can you live a fulfilling life, communicate and support other people if you don’t believe in yourself? It all depends on your own attitude towards yourself.
The habit of giving up halfway
This applies to all areas of your life. You can't give up too early. Follow your goal, don't give up halfway and never lose hope.
Zsecrecy
Our perception is divided into 3 parts:
- we know.
- we know we don't know.
- we don't know what we don't know.
By forgetting about the third part, you become closed to new information. If you refuse to admit that you don't know everything, your life will always remain dark and monotonous.
Irresponsibility
Shifting responsibility and blame onto others, like nothing else, slows down decision-making and aggravates problems. Until you learn responsibility, you will never be a winner or a person who will change the world.
If these qualities are present in you, you are a loser, even if you think differently. Try to get rid of them.
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not a bad list of qualities to overcome.
Probably everyone has at least one quality. Indifference, every wealthy person has this quality. Every day we pass by poor people whom we try not to notice...
It seems to me that the most important quality of a loser is a lack of self-confidence, because if a person does not have other qualities of a loser, having such a quality, he will still not achieve anything, because he will not believe that anything can come of his work, but therefore, the attitude towards the matter will be appropriate.
Hurray!! I'm not a loser!! Thank you
There is a grain of truth in the article :-)
but there are errors, please correct them.
Here they are: 1. “people will turn away from you” - “they will turn away” without a soft sign.
2. “because someone may not like it” - after this phrase, put a comma before “I”.
3. “If these qualities are present in you” - a comma is needed after
4. “differently” - written with a hyphen.
3. “about respect for someone” - the correct word would be “about respect for someone”
With respect and gratitude.
Especially the point about indifference is true, current society is a loser because it is indifferent...
According to these signs, he is the spitting image of a loser, but there are other situations.
All the same, the main thing is whether a person considers himself a loser, so the statement that if one or more of these qualities are inherent in you, then you are a loser is quite controversial. You can have most of these flaws and still feel happy
Along the way, I also fit these criteria! ((
It seems to me that anyone who is constantly afraid of failure will become a loser, and people who like to take risks and prove to themselves that they are capable of more will sooner or later still become successful...
In general, signs of a loser. But a person endowed with exactly the opposite signs is even worse than a loser. A winning behavior pattern is somewhere in the middle.
Yes, unfortunately, I saw myself in many ways, thank you, I will correct myself. kill yourself
loser)
You need to print it, hang it on the wall, and look at it in the morning, read it, and remember it. And throughout the day we don’t let these factors get the better of you.
I recognize one of my friends in this list of qualities)) Unlucky departure
If a person has at least 50% of the described qualities, then this is not so much a loser, but just some kind of fiend of hell
Dr. Kronos
>But a person endowed with exactly the opposite signs is even worse than a loser
Not worse, but close)
And the article is also called the qualities of a loser, and in the article
qualities of a loser, IMHO these are different things.
Did you find a few of them in yourself? Am I a loser?))
May, don’t be complex - everything will be healed in a minute
>A person comes up with the idea of a loser himself. Or the people around you. Everything is relative.
Well, call it what you want, but the word loser describes it well. Replace the word - the essence will not change much.
rather 10 signs of a loser! A loser is one who calls himself a loser!
Damn, I’m reading 10 qualities of a loser, it’s not a loser, it’s just a failed person
A loser is a person who always gets both of two evils. I have a friend like that, something bad always happens to him. Either he falls out of the blue, or he cuts himself. He had such a case, he took out a knife and pulled it so sharply that he had to get stitches in the hospital. We said about him that the theory of probability does not work on him -) it’s funny, of course, but it turns out that there are losers - which means there must be lucky ones))..
A loser is more likely a person who has fallen out of reality. Obsessed with something that he cannot actually implement. So he does not pay due attention to the circumstances surrounding him. Hence all the troubles.
I think that everyone, to one degree or another, possesses some of these qualities - but there are so many successful people around us! So, it's not just that. In general, humanity loves to put labels on everything, give its own definition to everything, look for algorithms for everything, put everything in its place. It needs to be simpler!
But in my opinion the article is about nothing. It would be possible to leave only the title, and everyone could come up with all these qualities without any problems and this would not be a special discovery.
But in general, thanks for the blog, it will be interesting to read.
More like a small article on “how to live correctly”
Not exactly the signs, but some just hit the bull's eye
Indifference cannot in any way be the quality of a loser. Look at the richest people in the world, people who have achieved everything in this world. And you come to them to ask for help, no matter what. And he will send you. Is this indifference? YES! But only in this case, the loser is YOU!
Sometimes the loser in me appears. What can you do, the main thing is to realize it and correct yourself
I completely agree! Nothing to add...
We all have one quality or another. I don't think you can judge right away
If you see yourself as a loser after reading this article, don’t be upset: in the CIS, 99% of people are losers. This is how the communist system raised them.
But it’s never too late to change something in life - the most important thing is not to put it off and start now!
The list is too exaggerated. Some character traits, such as irresponsibility and indifference, are precisely characteristic of “Lucky People”
The American stereotype has already reached us. Lucky, unlucky - what the hell?
Yes. agree. But it’s still not entirely clear why closedness also belongs to these qualities?
you could add quality:
Learn to flush the toilet after shaving
The hairs remain and spoil the appearance
Lack of self-confidence and self-esteem is a sign of low self-esteem
The habit of giving up halfway - Lack of self-confidence
I wonder how I should get rid of pessimism)
Everyone has such qualities, but only in some they are stronger, in others weaker. Some have an example of a strong person to follow and follow it. The other is surrounded by an atmosphere of pessimism and is again influenced. For some people, circumstances in life work out in their favor, while for others, some obstacles constantly arise. So life is too multifaceted to fit the concept of the word Loser into these narrow frames.
I don’t know what’s there... Berezovsky “in his book” definitely writes about such people :), but how much I watched, read, listened to the so-called successful people in society, to one degree or another, without even knowing them closely, not Communicating with them closely and not really striving for this, I noticed common features in them - they are, as a rule, ... insincere, indifferent and closed.
It’s a pity for the other... Many men today, striving for the described layer or simply envying it (and everything is relative), consciously or not, seem to be infected with these same qualities.
You just probably don’t quite understand the American component of this article, especially on the topic of Psychology.
The most important quality of a loser is a lack of faith and self-confidence. All other qualities are present in us. And they are present exactly as much more as we have less faith in ourselves. That is, the more confident we are in ourselves, the less room there is for other qualities. These are the thoughts.
And what do the actual circumstances have to do with it? A successful person does not pay attention to circumstances, or works with them and turns to his side. And obstacles only strengthen character and accumulate experience.
My sister has been having all sorts of physical misfortunes lately, she injured her leg so she couldn’t stand on it for half a year, then she fell so bad that there was a scar on her nose, what should I do with it, tell me
A loser is just a lazy person who is too lazy to do something with his life, so he gets used to living as is - without changing anything.
A loser doesn't have to be lazy, he's just a person who has bad luck all the time...
just how to do it!
According to the article, it turns out that I am a normal person, but in reality I am a loser. I constantly break something, spill it, drop it, lose it, forget it. This is every day. I’m thinking it’s a good day today: I got up early in the morning, took the dog out, breathed some still clean air, did some exercise, took a shower, made coffee and sat down at my laptop to read an article about how to make a good morning and poured coffee on myself. I realized that now I woke up, a real loser, and off we go: I tripped, broke, forgot... well, how to enjoy life?
Here I am a loser at school, they beat me up every day on the street, and my father doesn’t respect me, what should I do? The problem here is not in me, but in life.
“If you managed to kick the ass of the person who is to blame for all your troubles, then you would not be able to sit for a week.” Have you heard this quote? The problem is with you...
Today a guy asked me to take him and his girlfriend in an insane state (drunk). It’s two kilometers on foot through the forest, and seven along the highway. I named the price, he said that he had no money. I closed the gate. It's raining outside, they're naked.
It seems like it’s right (don’t give a fuck about drinking, etc., why do I need their problems)
and on the other hand, they will catch a cold (pneumonia, etc.) and on the third, they manipulate me - like, we are so unhappy, help us, we will get on your neck.
To be honest, going anywhere else (I just drove up to the house) was not part of my plans
Me again. When approaching the city, I found an S-Class hanging (clung to) a tree at a height of one and a half meters. Most likely, he drove into a puddle. (When I was leaving, I was also in it, I was driving slowly, but it was still covered by a wave and flooded with VF)
It is impossible to say that unsuccessful people drive decent cars. .well, the ambulance is standing there, unloading the wounded. It’s very sad - people were driving, smiling, and then, in a split second, that’s all. But I think failure is more about perception and reaction to
happening. I am sure that in the hospital they will feel better than people with less pain but more pessimism. In short, let them get better.
Source:
10 qualities of a loser
Who is a loser? Each person has his own answer to this question. Some people believe that a loser is someone who has no money, job, family or friends. Some people think that this is the one who doesn't know how
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10 signs that a girl is stupid
1. She believes that you owe her everything, and she owes you nothing.
2. Does not tolerate any criticism of himself.
3. Believes that a woman has the right to beat a man with impunity, and that he will allegedly never dare to raise a hand against her in response.
4. Considers it normal to discuss you with her friends, but becomes hysterical if she finds out that you discussed her with anyone.
5.Loves when strangers pay attention to her; hates it when strangers pay attention to you.
6.Tries to teach you about life, gets angry if anyone tries to teach her.
7. “The Devil Wears Prada” is not the title of a work for her, but a life postulate.
8. She justifies the expediency of fulfilling her whims with the phrase “if you are a real man, you will do this for me!”
9. He considers buying beer a much more wasteful waste of money than paying for the services of a fortune teller or psychic.
10. Believes that all the wars on the planet are because of men. And that if women were given power, then peace and harmony would reign on earth...
90% of them are like that. this is feminine nature. It’s just that in our depraved times she found an uncontrollable way out.
I don't think I deleted anything? Did something happen without me?
You know. I also started with what you wrote and there was no result, everything depends on the person, I work, she works, but nothing prevents her from spending 4,000 rubles a day, despite the fact that we also rented an apartment for 8,000 rubles. Naturally, I pay for the apartment. Every day reminding about saving, it feels like she is hearing these words for the first time, so look for smart girls with whom you can live a poor but happy life!
“If you love, then let go, but if you loved, you wouldn’t let go, and if you let go, it means you never loved, and it’s very difficult to let go when you love. "
beautifully written
Minus the stupid bitches!
By the way, sign No. 2 is suitable not only for Victoria. but also, for example, under VinoKlaba)
and all 10 signs fit you!
"4. Considers it normal to discuss you with his friends. " (With)
. the easier it is to “fry” her friend.)))
because the girl herself “in absentia” introduced her friend to her boyfriend, and the friend “in absentia” became an accomplice in the situation under discussion.))) it remains a matter of technique.
If women ruled the world, there would be no wars, just all countries would not talk to each other.
well, yes, something is spot on. 4 and 5 exactly. but these signs can equally apply to men.
By the way, I somehow have little idea that a woman can beat a man - I look at my man and understand: I’m not a suicide.
What? Mine is hitting me! Hands, feet, various objects. It turns out so funny. I always laugh. Then sometimes I get offended. But this is just for show.
You can't hit a woman. until she started beating the guy.
For me, it's more stupid than funny. One gets the impression that no one is giving the author anything, and he decided to take revenge in such a simple way. Why copy-paste this here?
I'm with you, gentlemen.
It's not funny to me either.
Yes, you're out of luck)
But there is an option that the author is simply tired of bitches and fools: i.e. He personally came across (caught?) people like that in his life.
Fortunately, I myself have not dealt with the type of women described, but I have encountered them and I know that they really exist. A couple of times they were betrayed by a loud conversation on an iPhone with some girlfriend, where IT (there is no other name) went through the “details” for a long time and in detail, how she was taken to the wrong restaurant and given the wrong fur coat.
A very correct post, wisdom is dialectics, selfishness is the absence of dialectics, so everything is fine, but the consumer is a creature lower than an animal, even an animal takes care of its partner and offspring.
If the rulers of all countries were female, then there would really be no wars, there would be countries that don’t talk to each other!)
Well, points 2,5,6 are common to both men and women)) And when it comes to gossiping about the opposite sex and spending money unwisely, men are also not inferior to women. And since the post is talking specifically about girls, I would add one more point:
11. Believes that she will always be a young and beautiful girl and never an aunt 😉 I would give “-“ for the post itself, but I will refrain because of the comments.
That's right, smart girl)
- Why did you break up with your boyfriend?
- Could you be with someone who drinks, swears, and fights?!
- No!
- So he couldn’t!
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konr8, don’t delete the comment, please) Girls in anek are also smart)
"eleven. She believes that she will always be a young and beautiful girl and never an aunt;)"
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Lara, here is the difference:
- beautiful and smart aunt
- scary and stupid aunt
Do you get it?!
(>*.*
What about cross options? Beautiful and stupid or scary and smart? Or, according to your logic, a smart person will never be scary? But a dumb person, in principle, cannot be beautiful - eh.
Is this written for stupid men who are unable to independently assess the intelligence of their girlfriend?
Funny but not constructive.
Firstly, it is not indicated how many signs must be found in a girl in order to consider her stupid.
Secondly, the signs are ambiguous. For example, the 8th is about psychics. Why is it stupid to spend money on psychics, but not on the services of any sects and paraphernalia?)
Thirdly, it is written too emotionally. Reminds me of an article from a women's magazine.
Oh, someone got offended by my criticism.
It is more correct to write not OU, but WAU. These are just the sounds of your generation.
What a pity that not all of us here are fucking psychologists to measure the intelligence of stupid cunts.
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I agree with almost all points.
And no one offended the author.
The author simply pays attention and analyzes something that many simply do not think about.
1. I owe everyone for everything
2. Someone scold me!
3. Girls, don't hit me!
4. I love it when people judge me
5. Nobody loves me
6. Someone teach me how to live!
7. Abibas wears the right clothes
8. If you are real, sit and don’t move!
9. I don’t even dream about beer
10.Women should be given power sooner, otherwise why is there only one Ministry of Defense?
I am the Smartest!
Great title, disappointing content.
Do better, you are our sharp one)
sometimes your inaction is a benefit for others..
Local, your place is in a post about stupid men)
then yours in the post about stupid women :))))
I want women, you want men)
It would be nice to hear about 10 signs of an intelligent woman - you need to somehow distinguish them in everyday life..))
He talks when he needs to talk.
He is silent when he needs to be silent.
He takes care of himself, but without fanaticism.
He behaves both in society and at HOME with dignity, but not arrogantly.
Dresses with taste, but not provocatively.
She paints herself correctly, and not like an Indian or a vampire.
It has a twist, but it’s not a snail in a shell.
You are the blush of burning cheeks
And the fragrant forest rain,
You are a sweet sip of champagne,
And a sip of hot tea.
You're dizzy like a drug
There was a pounding in my temples,
But you barely open your mouth -
Immediately I think: it would be better to remain silent.
Palych! We've already read this! Do you have any new exciting adventures?
Unpredictability of actions!
It's like giving a monkey a grenade and praying to God.
Judging by Fiona’s comment, she just said a lot :)
And I even know who is pointing the finger down at me.
Ladies First! Find 10 or better - 20 signs of a stupid man! And so that entry to this post is closed to men.
Come on. march to the kitchen, fry cutlets:0
Fuck! You won't put my cutlets in your mouth!
X) Oh, I’ll keep quiet and won’t talk about your mouth and what it can take from me)))))))))))
I won't give and I won't take.
So what is this doing?)
Then you need to create your own “women’s” website.
That's what I see, women haven't started looking at 10 signs that a girl is stupid. :):):)
These are signs of TP)))
An honest post, although it infuriates those involved in the discussion :)
The smart one will draw conclusions and try to avoid the mentioned situations, and the stupid one will descend to “I’m a fool”
Are you talking about me? What about a sense of humor?
phrase on topic (does not apply to anyone personally):
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Never argue with an idiot, sooner or later you will sink to his level and there he will crush you with his experience :)
What can I say) The girls on our site are smart and beautiful. Almost no one took the post personally)
From the Internet:
“men are also strange - at first they are attracted to glamorous FIFAs, who have the price tag practically glued to their foreheads, and then they are surprised, “oh the times, oh the morals.”
Or maybe she's not like that?)
well) all that remains is to find out how much the “tram” she is waiting for costs)))
Great question: “What to do if you’re stupid?” At least someone is facing reality. If you found this page by typing the search phrase in Yandex or Google: "What if I'm stupid?", then you have come to the right place. This is where we will figure out what to do with stupidity. Stupidity doesn’t just happen, but it can be cured if you know how. Forward.
What to do if you're stupid?
What if I'm stupid or stupid? In general, I’m interested in why you asked this question. I hope you are smart enough to write to me about this in the comments below the article. It is important to know the reasons for this issue. After all, scientists can tell themselves that they are stupid. But you know that this is far from reality.
I ask myself this question sometimes too, and have heard other people do it. Basically, this question pops up when a person has made a big mess somewhere. And if he did this several times by standing on the same rake, then I really want to ask him: “Are you so stupid?”.
This question breaks out if a person takes a long time to catch up. Simply put, it takes a long time to get there. They tell him a joke, but he doesn’t understand the essence and, in general, what he should laugh at. You explain the idea to him, but he doesn’t understand what the point is. You tell him a solution to a problem, but he is dumb. And all that remains is to think and look for a solution to the question: “What should I do if I’m stupid?”.
Unfortunately, our lives are full of stupid and lazy people. You don’t really want to communicate with such people. You tell them something, but they don’t understand what, and sometimes they don’t even hear you. Attempts to maintain a conversation on the part of a stupid person look ridiculous and discourage further communication. Stupidity is not a death sentence; it can be cured. For this you need.
The main reason for stupidity is laziness. If a person does nothing day after day and does not develop, his brain gradually atrophies. Life moves at a fast pace, and you need to keep up with it, so as not to be surprised later when you are asked: “Are you on Instagram?”. A stupid person lagging behind life will not understand what it is at all. And he doesn’t even have the intelligence to ask, or then look on the Internet, what this word means.
What to do if you're stupid? Develop. To keep up with the times. Now there is the Internet, and you can go to it at any time and get an answer to any question. Sometimes it seems to me that I don’t even need to go to school anymore. Turn on the Internet and you're done - all the knowledge of the world on your screen. Now there is an overabundance of information that is available wherever the Internet reaches. This means you have to be mega lazy to be stupid.
Constant communication with people is another way out of the deep pit of dullness. Don't be afraid that other people will think you are stupid. Be afraid that you evaluate yourself this way. Communicate, communicate and communicate again. Communication is an effective way to eliminate dullness at any stage.
The dumbass sits at home and lies on the couch. And if he’s still watching HOUSE 2... The outside world doesn’t interest him, and this is a direct path to degradation. A person must move around, visit some sections, strive for something. Yes, all this strains the brain, but it is intellectual activity that develops the brain. The brain develops - there is no stupidity.
Stupid people don't learn from their mistakes. Imagine that there are rakes lying in the same place in the room. The person stepped on them the first time and received a click on the nose, then the second, third, and so on. Well, what kind of idiot do you have to be to walk along the same path where the rake lies? Is it really difficult for you to remove them or start to bypass them?
The same thing happens in a person’s life, in all areas. A person makes the same mistakes many times, and then he is surprised that he is stupid. Well, of course he's stupid. If you burn yourself on an iron once, will you really touch it again next time? A stupid person will touch it for the tenth time to test its effect.
What about in relationships? A girl can make the same mistakes in relationships with different men, but then she wonders why no one stays with her for a long time. Yes, because behavior needs to be corrected. If the previous guy left you because you were very focused on yourself, then with the second guy you shouldn’t behave like that. Otherwise he will leave too. And then the third and fifth and so on. Therefore, learn not only from your mistakes, but also from others. And then you will never be stupid.
It's one thing to be stupid in subjects such as mathematics, geometry, physics, and it's a completely different thing to be stupid in life. If you are stupid in mathematics, God bless you. You will still forget it 98%. Being dumb at math doesn't mean being stupid. You need to understand that some things are easy, and some are difficult. The bespectacled guy is good at math, and the jock is good at sports. We are all different, and every dumbass should understand that. In other words, stupidity is also relative, like height, weight, beauty.
As a rule, there is nothing to talk about with a stupid person. He can’t even correspond for a long time, because he doesn’t know what to answer or how to keep the conversation going. This speaks of people's low outlook. I noticed that if you don’t ask questions to a stupid person, he will simply remain silent. He is not smart enough to formulate a question in his head. Hence the solution - learn to ask interesting questions. You need to probe a person, understand where his passion lies. And having asked just one question on its topic, then all you have to do is listen.
Read often. This broadens your horizons and eliminates dullness. Read this site, other sites, read books, watch films. This is the most common thing that can be done for . I wish you all the best. Leave your questions in the comments below the article. See you on other pages of this site.
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I would say that everything is not simple. I think that here we need to talk about intelligence, about success in mathematics, and about how all this is connected.
Research on intelligence began in the 19th century with the work of Francis Galton (Charles Darwin's cousin). Galton drew attention to the fact that talented and successful parents most often have talented and successful children. Having collected a fairly large array of observations, he came to the conclusion that intellectual qualities are inherited. For that time it was a new idea, since other views prevailed. It was believed that everything depends on upbringing. Galton also created positive eugenics. According to his proposal, it was necessary to create conditions for talented, successful, beautiful people to marry each other and give birth to even more talented, successful and beautiful children. Of course, in the 19th century, intelligence was not understood quite as it is now. It was associated with high sensitivity of perception (sensitivity), good motor coordination.
From 1903-1905, the first intelligence tests began to appear. This happened in France in connection with the introduction of universal school education. The task was set of dividing children into school classes. It quickly became clear that the chronological age of children may not coincide with the age of mental development. There was a need to create a measurement procedure to staff classes with children of approximately equal mental age. Alfred Binet and Theodore Simon solved this applied problem.
In 1912, psychologist William Stern proposed the acronym we know - IQ (intelligence quotient). Further, the topic of intelligence research becomes extremely popular. A variety of tests are being created to test intellectual abilities, and large-scale studies are being conducted to cover the population.
Already since the 1920s, there has been a need for a theoretical generalization of the results obtained. How do we understand intelligence?
Charles Spearman, an English psychologist and a major specialist in the field of mathematical statistics, created a two-factor theory of the development of intelligence. He noticed that most often the results of various intellectual tests in a person are interrelated. Those. if your memory is good, then your level of erudition is high, your computing abilities are good, and your verbal intelligence is good. Using the static procedure of factor analysis, he identified 2 factors of intelligence - G and S. G - generall, the general factor of intelligence, is about how intellectually developed a person is. S - special, an additional factor, is used when solving individual problems. Those. Spearman came to the conclusion that there is some general level of intelligence, which is developed or not very developed. From the perspective of his theory, if you are not good at mathematics, then most likely yes, you are not very smart in other respects.
Criticism of Spearman's work immediately appeared. The results of his research began to be rechecked by various scientists. For example, Thurstone, later Guilford. And each time it turned out that some general factor of intelligence was not singled out; there were always many factors. Thus, the so-called theories of multiple intelligences appeared. It is based on the idea that there are different intelligences. For example, Howard Gardner analyzed ideas about intelligence in different cultures and found that they differed greatly. Based on the analysis of these ideas, he identified the following types of intelligence:
visual-spatial intelligence;
verbal-linguistic intelligence;
bodily-kinesthetic intelligence
logical-mathematical intelligence
interpersonal intelligence;
intrapersonal intelligence;
musical intelligence;
naturalistic intelligence
As you can see, logical-mathematical is only one type of intelligence, far from the only one. You can have poor math skills, but be musically gifted, or great at word processing.
Since the 1980s, in the field of intelligence research there has been no consensus on how to actually understand this intelligence. Moreover, new types of intelligence are beginning to be identified. For example, practical intelligence as the ability to solve practical problems (like where to get money) (R. Sternberg) or emotional intelligence (EQ).
But the insidiousness of the question also lies in the fact that if a person “can’t do mathematics”, this does not mean that he does not have the intellectual abilities for this. This could be, for example, math anxiety. This phenomenon is associated with the occurrence of anxiety and nervousness when faced with any mathematical problems (and is not related to abilities, mainly upbringing and life experience). Maybe pedagogical neglect, when a person is far behind the program and has already given up on himself.
So, in general, I would say that we cannot talk about a direct connection between “stupidity” in mathematics and “stupidity” in general. Everything is much more complicated, and there is not even an absolutely direct connection between mathematical abilities and success in mathematics (due to the interference of many factors).